Took a shower in Holy Water today
Crying as drops of guilt and shame, trickle down the drain
I am healed.
No more myself to blame
How many of you have had to gain closure on your own because a friend or loved one refused to ‘own up’ to their role in your pain? It’s a difficult thing to do. Let’s examine the formal definition of the term ‘Closure’. – Closure or need for closure (NFC) (used interchangeably with need for cognitive closure (NFCC)) arepsychological terms that describe an individual’s desire for a firm answer to a question and an aversion toward ambiguity. The term “need” denotes a motivated tendency to seek out information.
What are some of the ways you have given yourself closure? What was the situation? Dr. Abigail Brenner shares 5 Ways to Find Closure From the Past at this link: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/in-flux/201104/5-ways-find-closure-the-past
I would love to hear your thoughts to her top 5 list. Have a blessed and safe weekend.
This came up the other night when my husband and I were watching “The Bachelorette: After the Final Rose” (yes, I am a Bachelor/Bachelorette junkie). The runner-up always meets with the Bachelor/Bachelorette on this episode to discuss why they weren’t the chosen one in the end. The word “closure” always comes up in these discussions. Everyone is always looking for it, but what exactly does that mean?
My husband stopped scrolling through his phone and asked me that same questions. “What does closure mean? Do they get it? Is there anything that anyone could say to give you closure?” I thought about for a second, and wondered the same thing.
I think closure isn’t just a moment or an action that immediately heals wounds or makes you feel better (it may make you feel worse in the beginning). I think it’s a process; a path that is made by a series of events that help you process a painful moment. I think closure is made when you finally look back on something, and are able to make peace with it, move on and become more humbled by it.
Agreed. I do not believe that it is something another person can ‘give you’. You have to achieve it in your own way and in your own time.