Love at first sight; flee or fight for Love August 19, 2016 – Posted in: News

Do you believe in Love at First Sight? Is it possible to love someone at first sight based on what’s on the ‘inside’? versus their outside characteristics, such as eyes, hair, smile, or physique. “Yes, we can, says psychoanalyst Roland Gori, who believes we can create a frame of mind where we’re more likely to fall in love instantly. ‘We need to believe that, on some level, something is missing from our lives,’ he explains. ‘When we feel “complete”, that we’ve found everything we want, we’re not as open to the possibility that someone else can heal our pain.’ Whereas if we’re feeling vaguely dissatisfied, someone can appear exactly when we need them to. When we’re feeling down, we’re more open to the romantic notion that someone can walk in and save us. Which is why love at first sight is something we find so desirable, particularly when we’ve been… Read More

Closure August 6, 2016 – Posted in: News

Took a shower in Holy Water today Crying as drops of guilt and shame, trickle down the drain I am healed. No more myself to blame How many of you have had to gain closure on your own because a friend or loved one refused to ‘own up’ to their role in your pain? It’s a difficult thing to do. Let’s examine the formal definition of the term ‘Closure’. – Closure or need for closure (NFC) (used interchangeably with need for cognitive closure (NFCC)) arepsychological terms that describe an individual’s desire for a firm answer to a question and an aversion toward ambiguity. The term “need” denotes a motivated tendency to seek out information. What are some of the ways you have given yourself closure? What was the situation? Dr. Abigail Brenner shares 5 Ways to Find Closure From the Past at this link: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/in-flux/201104/5-ways-find-closure-the-past I would love to hear your thoughts… Read More

Paying it Forward! August 1, 2016 – Posted in: News

Have you ever heard of the phrase paying it forward? I first learned about this 2 years ago, when my daughter and I were at a toll booth about to pay and the ticket-taker person said it was paid already by the car that just pulled off. I was in awe, felt God had personally Blessed me, and smiled the whole rest of the trip. The next Sunday in church the Pastor happened to be preaching on Christian values and behaviors and brought up this same phrase. He said that it is our responsibility to pay it forward when we are Blessed. It doesn’t have to be about money, it could be just complimenting someone, saying hello and asking how they are doing, helping someone open a door who has a bag full of packages, or giving a sandwich to a homeless person. The pastor’s pay it forward story was about… Read More